Friend or Partner?

Here, I will talk about the term that may have been controversial in my life recently, the term of partner. Okay, let say we are in kind of courtroom or round table and we want to talk about this problem. I want to open this discussion about the problem of term itself. What is partner mean? According to (like writing paper, the writer use the word “according to..”) Kamus Besar Bahasa Indonesia, partner means orang (badan usaha, dsb) dari pihak yang berbeda yang bekerja sama karena saling membutuhkan, atau melengkapi dalam suatu kegiatan/usaha dagang, dsb. There, we find the words “karena saling membutuhkan” and it will be the key of this conversation.

Why partner? So, this is time to explain the origin of the idea using word partner to replace word teman. First of all, Bahasa Indonesia is different, including the term of friend. We have sahabat, teman, kawan, kolega, etc. The writer separates those words into two, “sahabat” and “teman”. Then, I will ask you a question. Is the word “sahabat” and “teman” in the same degree of friendship?? No it isn’t. The word “sahabat” is in the higher degree. The writer have so many bad experiences about friendship. It lead the writer to have different opinion about this thing. It is become an ideology. My ideology. Do not ever think that my “partner” is your “partner”. I just think that partner is more flexible to use. Everybody can be my partner. My partner when I was a kid, partner when I was in High School, or my current partner. But, not everybody can be my friend. I prefer think the word “friend” is mean “sahabat”. Not everybody can be my “sahabat”.

Menjadi lebih dewasa. Be grow up. Be mature. Just like this blog title. Now I have my ideology. I have my own perspective about this thing. I can do and think about everything based on my ideology, my philosophy. I conscious, I realize that there are people call me arrogant or childish, or whatever. I know it and it is hurt. I know that calling my "friend" as partner probably become a bit harsh because they think that they don't deserve to be just a partner. However, like I said, there is only a very very very special person in my life that will ever be my friend.

But anyway, it just a matter of term. Do you really think I have no friend at all? No. I have many friends (in your term) and I have many partners (in my term). Maybe I treat my partner better than you treat your friend. I spend more time to think about friendship than you, I guess, so I think I understand friendship better than tou all. I am proud about my ideology. In conclusion, I want to say sorry from the bottom of my heart because I will never regard you as my friend. It doesn’t mean I treat you like an asshole, right? You still can be my partner. Even, some of you are my best partner ever. Last but no least, I hope you can be wise and don’t change your opinion about me because like I said, it just a matter of term.

 Sincerely,

Your partner